Updated: Mar 25
Welcome to Walid Rafo Advice!
I am a Spiritual Counsellor and I have opened up this site to help those in need. Specifically, those who are encountering certain obstacles in life. It is a great blessing to be in this position. A position where I can help others just as Christ has helped others. Most things I have had experience with, and others I have learned from. Either way, I do not answer questions I am not knowledgable of. I will take my time to respond if I must. Either way, I will make sure that your question is answered as soon as possible, and to get you the assistance you need through my writing.
Firstly, Prayers. When you are battling with an addiction, prayer is a go to remedy. Oftentimes we try to win our battles on our own. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. Sometimes, our addictions are too powerful for us to overcome on our own. Therefore, we need something greater and more powerful than our addictions in order for us to overcome it. Prayer. This method is great because it cleans your heart, soul, and mind. Prayer is you talking with the Lord one to one. Between a father and son. Between a father and daughter. Prayer is so beautiful and I recommend that you pray as often as you can throughout the day.
Secondly, Focus on strengthening your health. There are certain addictions, like the one you emailed me about (I will not be specifying which addiction because this page is directed towards anyone with any addiction), impact your health in a negative way. Think about it. When you partake in drugs, they speed up messaging to and from the brain. This is why you see people who take drugs always alert and feel more confident. These types of addictions also cause an increase in heart rate, blood pressure, body temperature. It can reduce your appetite, and also make you sleepless. In greater quantity amounts, these types of addictions can cause anxiety, panic, seizures, stomach pain and paranoia. Just look at how these addictions impact your health in such a negative way. I don't see any positive motives for liking or being alright with having an addiction. Stay away and get help!
Thirdly, Keeping yourself busy. With the clients that have an addiction, they often find that the issue at hand is that they are not busy. Most of them are at home all day without work. They feel that if they went to work and kept busy they might partake in an addiction less or stop completely. My advice for you is to keep busy and keep active as often as you can. Actually, this was one of the main methods that helped some of my clients stop their addictions. As soon as they started working full time everyday, they lessend their addiction everyday. They reported that they often came home tired after work and went to sleep right away until the next morning when it was time to work again.
Fourthly, Going to church and being a part of its community. When you group up with bad friends who have a negative influence on the choices you make in life. Simply, stay away. Instead, join your local church community and strengthen your relationships from there on out. You are who you hang out with. If you are around the foolish, you will become a fool. If you are around the company of the wise, a wise man you shall be.
Last but certainly not least, A spiritual retreat for a few weeks. This is one of the more highly recommended things to do in my opinion. A spiritual retreat is one of the most beautiful experiences for most people sufferring with an addiction. You don't even need to have an addiction in order to go to a spiritual retreat. These retreats are set up for individuals who want to spend more time with the Lord, or who want to get closer to God. I personally went to a spiritual retreat a few years ago, and the retreat was for three days. It was absolutely beautiful! We were all praying together, eating together, and did many activities together also. A spiritual retreat should be one of the top priorities on your list if you are someone who has an addiction. Tell your problems to the priest and he will help you day by day.
This is the dream:
I saw my father sitting with a group. They were outside and they were seated on wooden chairs. There seemed to be about ten people in that group. My father was speaking to them, and I saw Solomon standing behind my father. While my father was speaking, one man got angry for no reason, and yelled, "This is ridiculous! I don't want to speak with you anymore." This made my father sad. Solomon tapped his shoulder, smiled, and said, "Watch what happened when he said this." Then, my father saw the mans brain fall on his lap. After a short while, the man took his brain, and put it back in his head. Then, he apologized, and my father was happy again. Then, a woman in the group was talking as If there was no end. She was complaining against God. She said, "Why doesn't God make me rich? Why doesn't he give me everything I ask for?" My father was sad and hurt when he heard the lady saying this. The Solomon tapped my fathers shoulder again, smiled, and said, "Look what happens to this woman." Then, I saw her brain fall on her lap, but she wouldn't place it back into her head like the first man did. Instead, someone else put her brain back in her head.
Solomon brought a chair and sat beside my father. He said to him, "My son, the mind sometimes falls on the lap. Sometimes they can fix themselves, and other times, they need someone else to fix them."
Ever since this dream, my father has used that saying about one thousand times. We laugh because we remember that this message came from Solomon. He was a very wise man, and the examples and sayings you will hear in these blogs will certainly fascinate you.
Remember, there is a lesson behind every dream. How many times have ours minds fallen on to our laps? How many times have we made ridiculous or unwise decisions? It's normal to see children making mistakes all the time, but for grown ups to never learn their lesson? I know many adults who make mistakes that can be repaired, but when the time comes, their mind falls on their lap. Do you know why? There is no determination to set things straight.
There are a few different types of people in terms of getting better, and making a difference in their life:
I REALLY want to change with all my heart, and I am changing.
I'm trying to change, but whenever I'm in the moment I fail.
I'm only saying I want to change because I want attention.
I don't want to change now, maybe later?
I never want to change. I'm content with the way I am!
All of us have room for improvements. When my father sits with people who are still living in their sins, he always tells them that they can be better than him. It all comes down to your determination and how much you really want the Holy Spirit to work in you.
When the Holy Spirit begins his work, you won't even believe what's happening to you. Not in the sense that you start flying and shooting webs! He works in a way that transforms every evil within you. Most especially, your heart and mind.
The way the devil works with people is tricky, so be careful. My father always taught me that, "The devil goes to the weakest spot in your mind, and hunts you there." I agree completely with that statement. If you always lust after men/women, the devil hunts in that field. If you hate someone, he'll hunt the spot of hate and cause you problems with family and friends.
We have to remember that anytime we are committing evil, the devil is hunting. Why should we let him strike us every time we get tempted to commit evil? Instead, call upon the name of the Lord to rescue you. Call and welcome the Holy Spirit into you, so that he may help you. We cannot conquer the devil with our own hands. We conquer evil in the name of Jesus Christ. Jesus is the only one who conquered evil, and through Jesus, we may have his help during our times of battle.
I recall sometimes when I am not wise, Solomon would come to me and say, "Wisdom, wisdom are you there? Are you awake or are you asleep? Wisdom, wisdom are you there? Wisdom, wisdom are you there? Are you dead or are you alive? Wisdom, wisdom are you there? Wisdom cannot be asleep and wisdom cannot die. I'm hoping dearest son of mine that wisdom is still here tonight."
This is what Solomon would say to me everytime I would be unwise. Thankfully, this is no longer the case.
Wisdom is such a beautiful gift from God. A gift that we should ask for from God every single day. To be filled with his great wisdom and be able to discern right from wrong, good from evil. With wisdom you are called the wise man, and you shall know the difference between anything that approaches you.
When God grants you wisdom you begin to think differently. Solomon gave me an example one time. He said, "Wisdom from God is different than the wisdom of human beings. Human beings say show hate unto your enemies and they are foolish in how they act with them. We use wisdom differently than this. I say to you, if you have an enemy, take a stone. Wrap the stone in paper. Pour plenty of honey on it. Lastly, sprinkle some sugar on the top. Go to your enemy and say, 'Here! Have some to eat. I want you to enjoy.' The fool will take a great bite because he is not careful and he will lose all of his teeth. The wise man is victorious, and the foolish one has lost the battle, sobbing in pain on the ground."
The foolish one allows room for the devil to tie a chain around your legs, and you are left stuck and cannot move. The wise man sees the devil setting him up from far away and digs a hole in the ground when the devil is asleep. So that when the devil sneaks to attack he will fall in a ditch. And the wise man will laugh at the devil from the ground, while the devil sobs in his failure under the ground.
The spirit of the Lord will never let you down when you have the wisdom of the Lord. It is such a beautiful gift! You will never make a mistake through my experience, because the Lord lives in you. And the Lord knows everything from the end and the beginning. He will cover you with his shadow and his twelve wings. In anything in life that you need, wisdom stands there. No enemy can stand against you. Not you and not your family. For the Lord is our rock. He is our only saviour.
Grey is wisdom. Because in your older ages you become more wise than the you when you were younger. For with time and age comes wisdom. So when you have grey hair, be glad and don't think about colouring it!
Solomon told me this: "The people of the world have two sides. A wise man and a foolish one. And they both play a competition. Kind of like checkers. The wise man holds red and the fool holds to black. They play and the fool is ahead of the game. He is laughing and mocking the wise man because he is losing. The coach, who is the Lord, is standing and watching. He nods to the workers to make a distraction and someone falls in agony in the background. The fool turns around and the Lord gives the chance to the wise man to turn around the board. The fool returns his mind to the game and notices he is suddenly losing. He asks the wise man if he is cheating, but he answers no. He asks the coach, the Lord, but the coach denies it. The wise man is victorious and the fool walks away ashamed that he laughed in the beginning and is sobbing in his tears at the end."
Although this was a short blog, I thought it might be interesting to share. After all, I have been ordered to write down every dream for the world to see.
I hope todays answer was able to help you out in any way. I am always filled with great joy when i receive your questions in my email box asking for assistance on your troubles. I am also glad to see that these counselling forums have been able to help many of you in many ways. I encourage you to continue asking. If you are new and are reading this, send me an email with any question in particular that I can help council you with.
I have had family members and friends who have battled with this addiction. I want to research this addiction so that I can learn how a person can overcome this type of addiction. Any addiction is hard to break it is going to take a lot of will power from the addict in order for them to be set free of this addiction.
You never know what could have pushed the addict into becoming a drug addict. I want to be able to relate to an addict whether it is a friend, family member or just someone in general whom I would want to be able to help them overcome this addiction. Drug addiction is the most common addiction and I feel that if we get the proper research on how to give treatment to an addict then maybe their chances of becoming free will be greater.
Can’t say that I would want to give an addict the drug of their choice because I would want to try and help them overcome their addiction and not contribute to it. In this study it mentioned that offering drugs to the addict and by them determining if they can say “yes or no” to the drug does not help them make progress they need something to undermine them in order to get the results they need. I think that all the studies and reviews mentioned in my paper are really good ones they all have the intention to try and come to a solution to helping those that are addicted to drugs.
I just want to be able to talk with them and see what I can do to help them overcome this disease. That is why it is important that we take all necessary measures when it comes to us trying to aid a person who is addicted to drugs. Drug addiction is something that I want to do research so we can come up with a method that can slow it down.
I feel that all data collected from this article will be informative and the results of the study will be concise and easy to follow and understand. I just hope with my two studies that it will conform enough information about drug addiction to where it will give clarity to what steps we can take to stop this trend in drug addiction. When we look back at the studies done on this particular study you try and think back at all the methods that we have learned in this class.
That’s why I want a PhD in psychology. I have a passion for research in psychology and would have little credibility without a PhD. I will not be able to secure the grant money I may want for what ever I want to do in the future and I don’t want to be dependent on other faculty members forever. A PhD and a TT job will give me the freedom to do what I want in terms of research… I guess that’s my real answer.
It’s, “well my dad was an alcoholic so that ‘s why I am” or well I grew up in Detroit where drugs were bad, so it’s just what I’m used to doing”. No, that’s crap. If a person doesn’t want to give in to addiction then don’t do it! So yes, it’s obvious to say that I definitely lean more towards the Moral Model of Addiction, but I am also partial to understanding the Sociocultural side of it as well.
I know I could empathize with a person who is sexually addicted. As a Christian I have learned what healthy boundaries are and what my role is as a person in Christ. I believe that sexual addiction is immoral, but it is also a disease. I also believe that an addict cannot get out of the cycle of sexual addiction without help.
She is clearly telling women to stop and think about their life. You don’t have to act this way, it clearly isn’t fair and needs to stop! Cespedes2 Judy wants people to get angry and take a stand; I believe those are her intentions when writing such an emotional piece. Her argument is clear and to the point.
Specific Purpose: To persuade my audience that actions need to be taken to stop the addiction to social networking. Thesis Statement: Being too addicted to social networking can cause some serious problems, so it is necessary to stop it. Main Points: ?.Addiction to social networking has caused serious problems.
I believe I have the empathy and positive regard for a person that has a sexual addiction to treat them. After working with addicts for a year I learned that this disease is habitual and that it is a cycle that is not easily broken. It takes patience and perseverance to work with an addict. Most of all I believe it take compassion for that person.
Everyone have dreams andand every dream is unlike with each others. Some of them want to be a teacher, and slightly of them want to be an astronaut, but for me, I have in interesting and marvelous dream. My dream is to become a millionaire. If I were a millionaire, would life have to change for me? Would I overhaul it every(prenominal) on myself and my family.But, how would I do that, I already have all that I want for a palmy and happy living, how and what would I add?
Dr. Laaser then gives five components of treatment of sexual addiction. These include stopping sexual behavior, stopping rituals, stopping fantasy, healing despair and healing shame. Elements of all five of these are required for an effective treatment plan (Laaser, 2004). I believe that learning never ends especially in regards to human behavior.
If I had the power to change three things in this world they would have to be: I would change who ran our country, I would stop sending our factory jobs to China and Mexico, and I would also put a stop to the unnecessary violence going on around us. To me these are three very important issues that need to be changed; by this I think the world would be a better place. I think we need a different president; this isn’t a racist statement or anything of that sort.
Being a Vietnamese girl learn English to become a nurse is my first and forehead goal I want to do in this coming year. I would love to care about people and make them happy. My motivation is 4 year college and then go to study beyond later if I have a chance because education never stop. There are a lot of things to do in this country.
The Human Service Career of Addiction Counseling has inspired me to learn all I can to help people, and has given me the opportunity to make an honest living. I was in desperate need of a behavior and attitude change about my life, for I have received the information from others in the field and made a conscious decision to help others who have a desire for change and a new way of life. Substance abuse counselors advise people who have alcoholism or other types of addiction, behavioral problems, or help the client recover from addiction by providing treatment and support.
Drug Addiction The topic that caught my attention when I was reading my choices was “Drug Addiction”. Drug addiction is something that should not be taken lightly by anyone who has a family member or friend with this issue. We often wonder how and what make people turn into being a drug addict. “Drug addiction is rooted in long-term adaptations within the brain that promotes escalating drug use, difficulty quitting, and relapse—all despite the awareness of negative consequences.” With that being said I have always wondered what keep a person going back to their addiction and why can’t they quit.
So, I want a PhD to become a better researcher. 3) I enjoy debating and creating experimental designs to answer the many, many questions I have about different aspects of human cognition…and I tend to find questions everywhere. I have been known to spend weeks on literature reviews based on something I disagreed with in a random NYT article and then create hypothetical designs based on what I’ve found.
I believe that I am an addict, I made a lot of bad decisions in my life. But the worst was my decision to start using drugs. From the day that I started using to now I have loved it. And at times I would do just about anything to get it, I have done just about everything except sell my body. I stole from the people I love to get what I needed.
So, I want a PhD in neurocognitive or cognitive psychology because: 1) I was made to be a psychologist. I may not be as articulate as I want to be here… but here it goes– As a preteen, for all my science fair projects leaned in the direction of psychology (one year I remember trying to test my classmates’ mood at different times during the year to examine the mood- weather relationship). The first time I seriously became interested in neuroscience/psychology I was 20 years old or so– my cousin had just committed suicide at the time and I was looking for answers (especially because I had been having suicidal thoughts for a couple of years before his death…which is scary because I wasn’t even 21 yet).
I know that it can never exist but we could at least work on slowing it down. In the studies that I chose we will be dealing with how addicts can be treated to prescription pain medication. I hear some people talk about taking other people medication because they like the way it makes them feel and they become addicted to it.
This was about the age when I started feeling guilty for how I had treated her when I was younger (at this point I may have been a bit older … like 25). I also have another bipolar aunt, who, at the time, kept trying to kill herself every few months (actually when I was around 13, she once told my mom she wanted to speak with me, and then told me that she was going to kill herself… yeah, it’s messed up). All this combined with my own manic and depressive episodes I frequently questioned reality when I was my normal self.
I not only have moral responsibilities toward the clients that the clinic serves but also to the employees. I have moral responsibility for each client because they reaching out for help. I want to offer them every possible resource so they can get out of their situation. If the shelter fails on doing so then the clients could return to their addiction and possibly end up in a worse situation.
Looking back now the worst part for me is that I helped my best friend kill herself. I provided her with the drug that was sucking her dry. At that point in time I thought I was helping her. We have always depended on each other but this time we depended on something else. We both are not using heroin anymore, and have come out on the other side of that addiction.
Three fitness goals that I have for this school year are: 1) to stop consuming all the junk food I possibly can but not all at once, day by day; slowly decreasing the amounts of candy or chips that I eat because I know that it will be a hard task so I would prefer to adapt to it slowly, 2) Instead of watching TV, I want to get up off the couch more and improve on my workouts, which I rarely ever even do. 3) Lastly would be to pick water as a beverage more often with my meals instead of having unhealthy sugary drinks. My first fitness goal is to stop eating so much junk food.
After the ride reached its fastest speed, it suddenly slowed down and in front of us was a hill, so we started to climb. I could hear the chain pulling up the cart, and everyone around me was smiling and having fun. I was already having fun from the beginning of the ride, and I wanted more. It was like a drug that I could not stop having.
Also in the study they took a small sample size of addicts who quit smoking after a brain injury and they had a criteria that asked them some simple question and due to such a small sample size they were not able to get the laterality effects could not be verified statistically due to the small sample size like I mentioned earlier. The results of this study gave great evidence that insula is critical for psychological processes that maintain addiction to cigarette smoke. I have known people to have drug addiction and it just hurt your heart when you see them all strung out and can’t even help themselves.
Then I stumbled upon this model, clearly stating that there is not merely one certain model that explains addiction properly, but yet several different ones. As the Biopsychosocial model simply incorporates the other models into a single model, I am quite easily able to explain my point of view. See, I agree with each the Moral, Sociocultural and Biopsychosocial models of addiction.
We both know that if it were placed in front of us we could not say no. Addiction has taken a lot from me. I have lost the trust of my Parents and my freedom I ounce had. My best friend and I can not hangout outside of school, were just not good for each other to be around. But most of all I lost respect for myself.
LITERATURE REVIEW In this paper, we will discuss the problem of computer game addiction, one of the most addictive games, and ways to prevent or stop addiction. Massively Multiplayer Online Role- Playing Games Game addiction really started turning into a problem with the advent of Massively Multiplayer Online Role- Playing Games, or MMORPGs. While regular games would keep you entertained until you beat it, MMORPGs have no ending, so there really is no reason to stop playing.
I think when it comes to this type of research the clinicians and researchers try and make a way to prevent relapse and other issues that form when you become an addict. They want to try and come up with an intervention that will be able to help those that are in need. That’s why these studies are very important to them and taken very seriously.
I think that this study will a have great validity due to the fact that they used a variety of substance to test for this study. This is an interesting study which really caught my attention and this study aimed to explore the existential aspects of living with addiction. The design that was used in this study was called a Hermeneutic which I have never heard of this type of design apparently this was the right design that was chosen to do this study although I am not familiar with it.
I don’t believe that all children have bad effects of drug addicted parents. I believe they can choose to live a better life and change their situation for the better. One must always find the confidence, drive, and determination to want to make their life what they desire. When being a witness to both sides of the fence, bias is up in the air for now.
I have realized how badly I want to succeed and make a difference in not only my life but in my daughter’s life as well. I have become more confident in myself and in Hodges for the tools I need to obtain my degree. I do believe that since January I have become a better critical thinker as well as a better writer.
Without drugs I have seen all the pain I have caused my family. I don’t have to ask for money, I don’t have to lie, and most importantly I don’t have to argue with my grandparents anymore. I can finally make them proud by going off to college and hopefully playing baseball by earning a scholarship. I can help my grandparents live the rest of their life the way they want too without stress and having to worry about me constantly.
Being a tech was and is amazing, but I want more, I want to be running the code, not just a part of the code, when a trauma victim comes in, or a coded patient comes in. I love the feeling of bring back a patient in a code, even though I know right now by doing just CPR I am the one that is moving the medication through the body, I want to be the one that is pushing epinephrine, to bring that patient back. In this world today, I feel like there are less and less people that are actually trying to improve today’s society, and are looking out only for themselves, or their family.
I already do it for free– I think it’s high time I get paid for it. A PhD program will pay me for it. I also want the ability to turn my hypothetical designs into actual research… I can’t do that without the independence a TT job will get me or the training I will receive as a doctoral student and a post-doc fellow.
Soon as I started working side by side with our nurses in the ER I saw that this is what I should be doing, and this is what I want to be doing, so I started working on the prerequisites right then and there. I loved the compassion the nurses had for their patients, and to see the smiles that would come from these patients when they felt better. There was something about being bedside that just pushed me to want to be more.
The Biopsychosocial Model of Addiction is easily the model that appeals to me most. This model states that addiction is the result of multiple, interacting variables, the strength of which vary between individuals. When I was observing each of the models, I found myself agreeing with two or three of the different standpoints from which they were presented.
May God bless us always.
Walid F Rafo.